Let me tell you: they’ve all been exceedingly average. He’s clearly getting catfished.Īmid the excitement and stress of perfecting my own profile into something that paints a pretty, yet unique, picture, I have managed to go on a handful of dates. Plus, due to its geographically meaningful initials, if anything were to blossom with someone, we could avoid embarrassment and tell people we met in OKlahoma City.
I chose OKCupid because I heard that’s the young/hip/casual one. There was a time-not long ago-when I would say to people “if I’m ever on one of those dating websites, that’s when I’ll know I need to reevaluate the choices I’ve made in life.” Well apparently those choices haven’t been great, because here I am, with my very own OKCupid profile. (What actually happened is that I had my heart broken, and decided to open up all avenues to fill the fresh, gaping hole in my emotional core). To solve such a mystery, I decided to dive into the belly of the beast, and set up a profile.
We do hear about success stories from time to time, but why not more? You can also learn a decent amount about the person without even having the balls to approach him/her. You don’t have to worry about who’s not single, and you can filter out the ones who smoke, or who aren’t the same religion, or whatever your preference is. The chances of meeting one of the truly great ones in real life seems pretty slim.Įnter online dating sites and apps, where you can literally sit at home in your underwear and browse for The One. That leaves 6.25 potential soul-mates, except half of those are gay, and the other half are way at the other side of the crowded bar and chances are you won’t bump into them. Half of those will be taken, half of the remaining will be fugly, and half of the remaining probably just won’t be very cool. Because out at a bar, you might see 50 people of of the gender you’re into.
You loser.ĭating sites act as a filter to weed out the unwanted guys/gals, and for this reason, online dating has become too convenient to ignore.Īnd on paper, it makes perfect sense. Moreover, for people looking to find a soul mate, time is working against them on three different fronts: 1) As we get older, our vision of an ideal mate gets more narrowly defined 2) As people continue to pair off, the field of eligibles dwindles and 3) Every day you are fatter, uglier, and balder. People are staying single longer, but there’s still that hint of anxiety because they haven’t settled down yet-Better hurry, or all the good ones will be taken! The number of women in the work force continues to rise. I suppose it makes sense when you look at what direction our society has been moving in. Of course, society doesn’t want to seem desperate, so its profile still contains disclaimers such as “I’m really skeptical about this” or “I’m just too busy to meet people.” But we already get everything else we want online - news, goods, degrees, jobs - so why not people? It’s as if society as a whole decided to swallow its pride and set up a profile. What was once only for the ugly, the old, the fat, and the socially awkward now has its grips on the young, good-looking, and talented portion of the population. Somehow, in the past few years, online dating has become acceptable to the masses. Online Dating: Why it Should Work and the Reasons it Doesn’t